Surprise birthday parties are one thing—but what if you could keep the fact that you're tying the knot a secret until the moment you walk down the aisle? Imagine the excitement!
Surprise weddings are currently trending, but this idea isn't completely new—in fact, actress Busy Philipps's 2007 nuptials to husband Marc Silverman were a total shock to their guests. And one of our latest real wedding couples had a surprise wedding that ended with yet another surprise: the revelation that the couple was expecting! The delight that comes with being caught off guard by an incredible occasion is a feeling like no other. But how exactly does one pull off the perfect surprise wedding? And is it something you should do?
We spoke to wedding planner and founder of Confetti & Co., Kendra Coons, and Sarah Walker of boosh cosmetics, who both had surprise weddings of their own. Both Coons and Walker agree that after being in their relationships for several years, a surprise wedding seemed like a natural idea. "We’d been living together for eight years, and with that comes a lot of stuff: cookware, appliances, bedding, dinnerware, furniture and home décor," Walker explains. "We had almost everything we needed when we decided to get married, so we chose to opt out of all the pre-parties except the bachelor and bachelorette."
Coons agrees. Initially, she and her then-fiancé started planning a traditional wedding after getting engaged. As the guest list reached 300 and the expenses started adding up, the couple realized they didn't want to have an over-the-top celebration. Coons revisited the idea of having a surprise wedding, an idea that she said she was enchanted with even before she got engaged. "We didn't want our guests to feel like they needed to give us gifts," she says. "We wanted to throw a fun party that was really about friends and family."
The surprise wedding trend doesn't show and signs of slowing down. "So many people are not traditional," Coons says. "It's kind of like the trend of having a small backyard wedding." For Walker, surprising her guests reaffirmed that the day was in fact about celebrating with friends and family. "Seeing how excited people were for us, even friends we see on the daily, is indescribable," she shares. "There was no muss or fuss for our guests, just lots of good food, drinks and company."
Two years after Coons's own surprise wedding, she was brought on as the wedding coordinator for Walker's surprise wedding. Walker says Coons was an important part of making sure her day ran smoothly, as she wasn't able to get much help from friends and family. "There were lots of questions I had and tasks that I wanted to delegate out to our friends and family, but I obviously couldn’t since our wedding was to be a surprise," Walker explains. "So, it was very comforting to know that she would handle the things that I could not."
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