Sharing the good news of your engagement with friends and loved ones means you get to show off your beautiful engagement ring. This is a piece of jewelry that will adorn your finger for the rest of your life as a symbol of your love and partnership. You want such an important item to be special, something that you truly love to wear. To ensure that you receive the ring of your dreams, you need to communicate with your partner about exactly what it is that you want. We spoke with jeweller Erin Tracy about how to ensure you get the engagement ring you’ve been dreaming of.
It’s important to decide what it is you’re looking for before you tell your partner. Tracy recommends that you look ahead to determine what you’ll still like years down the road, “Always trust your gut and don’t do what everyone else is doing, be different and go for something customized just for you.”
Once you’re certain of the ring you want, you should express this to your partner as they may have a different idea of what you like. “I think it is always a good idea to talk about your ideal ring style with your partner,” Tracy encourages. “Instagram and Pinterest are great ways to ‘flag’ a few rings you like so your partner can refer back. It is never a bad idea to start a discussion if you see a ring you like or if a friend has just gotten engaged. Those are always good ways to bring up the topic.” Tracy also emphasizes that one of the most important things for your partner to know is your ring size as this will ensure you are able to wear your engagement ring right after the question is asked.
While describing this ideal ring you should be as specific as possible. Knowing your preference between rose-gold and a white band is a large detail that will help in the ring shopping process, but slipping in the colour and cut of the stone are also simple points that will keep your ideal ring on track. While a jeweller can resize a ring, changing the details are much more complicated, making it essential to have the design details right on the first try.
Having a thoughtful and knowledgeable jeweller is another important part of the equation. If your partner has the basic knowledge a good jeweller can help to fill in the blanks. Tracy says, “I like to see pictures to get a sense of their style as well as understanding what they do on a day to day basis so that I can determine if some stones are too soft for them.” There are also details about your lifestyle that help to dictate the ring style Tracy notes. “If [you] play a lot of sports a really high setting should be avoided. I usually have a checklist of questions I ask to help aid in the designing of the ring and to ensure that we do our very best to get it right the first time.”
While you may have your perfect ring in mind there are other details to consider. Your partner may also have an eye for something that you may have missed that could be perfect for you. In the end, your ring will be perfect if you are being asked to marry the person that you love.