Advice From Other Brides On Having A Cash Bar


Photography courtesy of Tanya Plonka.

Alcohol can be a huge expense at a wedding and an unnecessary expense if the bride and groom do not drink themselves. Cash bars are a great, but controversial alternative for many brides and grooms. We asked our Facebook and Twitter followers their opinions on whether cash bars were a good idea. Here’s what they had to say:

“Limited cash bar. Set a cap then switch to a cash bar after that limit has been met. Or have beer and wine and let folks pay for mixed drinks if they choose.”
– Derric Smith via Facebook

“The only way to go is with an open bar! It’s the polite way.”
– Carollyn Yvonne via Facebook

“No way. Another option that I did at my wedding is drink tickets plus 3 bottles of wine per table. Not everyone used their tickets so other people did and everyone had a good time.”
– Alyssa Ashley via Facebook

“We did an open bar but had the option to limit types of beer/drinks. It’s kind of a middle ground. But certainly have a cash bar if cash is limited.”
– @samobeid via Twitter

“Where I am from, you would be stupid to have an open bar. People would go overboard and it would make a mess of your reception. I think that it really depends on where you are from and the people that you are inviting.”
– Alana Chaput via Facebook

“I think it depends on your bar. We had an open bar, but provided our own liquor. If you are at a hotel that charges you $6 a drink you may not want to pay for the open bar. Its a tough one. I’ve seen people take cash out of presentation envelopes to pay for the drinks.”
– Amanda Kueneman via Facebook

“Just adds another price tag to the wedding. We did a cash bar and people didn’t mind at all. Everyone still enjoyed the wedding.”
– Mary Thompson via Facebook

“Heck No! Open bar all the way! It’s bad enough guests have to buy an outfit and a gift, you could at least let them have a good time and drink their faces off.”
– Melissa Martin via Facebook

“Please, please don’t!”
– @envelopments via Twitter

“Don’t. I don’t want my guests to feel that they’re going to a lounge/club/bar during the reception.”
– Natalie Therese Bisnar via Facebook

“No, it’s called BYOB [Bring your own]. It’s cheaper on the bride and groom and people can bring what they like.”
– Erin Brooke via Facebook

“Don’t. Cash bars are gross. But if you must have one please let your guests know so they can bring cash.”
– Cara Ducasse via Facebook

“Yes do do do.”
– Marie-Josee Gagnon via Facebook

“Don’t. At Punjabi weddings, it’s considered a huge ‘don’t’ to have a cash bar — always open bar.”
– Naveen A. Grewal via Facebook

“Yup. My partner has been sober for over a year; There is no way we’d be paying for other people’s booze.”
– Jess Grover via Facebook

“We did a cash bar which worked well for us and our family and friends. But we did have a red and white wine at each table, and gave everyone of age a drink ticket that was personalized with a bow.”
– Jessica Bishop via Facebook

“Definite do! I’m from the Maritimes where open bars are unheard of. Thank goodness – I could never afford it. That being said I am providing wine for the tables.”
– Angela Wolf via Facebook

“Ew! Never!!!”
– FranZingone via Twitter

“As a planner I say no, very tacky.”
– Courtney B Kern via Facebook

“I think it would depend on your own family and friends. My friends drink a lot but my family doesn’t. I think the idea of three drink tickets and wine on the table is a good idea, then cash after that. But have non-boozy options too, for those who don’t drink. Or mock-tails.”
– Melissa Giroux via Facebook

“Toonie Bar.”
– Asia Lee Hoffart via Facebook

“Don’t. Would you have your friends & family pay for drinks at your own home? Your wedding is an extension of that. No way, so tacky!”
– Old, New, Borrowed and Blue Weddings via Facebook

“Absolutely do not!”
– madelinemg via Twitter

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One comment on “Advice From Other Brides On Having A Cash Bar
  1. Breanna Carlson says:

    Having a cash bar is far from tacky. A lot of the people chiming in on this article sound like pretentious snobs. Seriously. Eff you. If coming to a wedding with a cash bar is SUCH an inconvenience for your majesty, don’t come. No one will miss you with an attitude like that. Never mind the fact that the bride and groom, starting their new lives together, probably can’t afford an open bar and assuming they can is incredibly rude. My wedding is next month and we have 1 keg, 7 bottles of wine, and a champagne toast. Mixed drinks, special beers and wines and all that come from the bar with the guests’ OWN money. And whoever said that a wedding is an extension of your home is an idiot. That makes no sense whatsoever. Further more, no one is asking you to buy a new dress or suit or anything. Come in something presentable that you already have. And unless the bride and groom are total assholes, the registry will have a wide variety of gifts with a wide variety of price tags. Some of the items on my registry are $2 and ALL of them are below $80. You people bashing on cash bars are complete morons. It must be nice to have an unlimited cash flow like that. Tell you what, why don’t YOU give me some money for an open bar since you clearly have enough of it to throw around. That way I don’t look “tacky” and “rude.” Seriously. You people piss me off so much. I’m glad I don’t know anyone like you rude and inconsiderate morons.

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